What is the Real Issue Behind Only Wanting Plus-size Women for Sex?

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There have been a few occasions where I shared my views regarding plus-size fetishizing since I started blogging back in 2015, and I still have the same questions in my mind three years later – one being the title of this post.

A few weeks ago a friend of mine sent an article to me that he thought might be of service to me, Men Who Want Sex With Fat Women But Won’t Date Them. Once again, he was right.

The writer of the article shared her experience with a man whom she believes only wanted her for sex because she is plus-size. She also stated that she hoped that the presence of body positivity and acceptance would encourage men to be more open about their desires for larger women.

I am a strong advocate for self-expression, but more importantly, sharing one’s story to encourage and inspire others. However, the aforementioned article inspired me to push for self-love and acceptance even more. I could be wrong, but I don’t think that was the author’s intent.

Life is about choices. We have all made good and bad choices based on a plethora of reasons. And the decision to be involved with an individual based on sex is no different.

Do we truly know the definition of the word fetish? One of the definitions of the word is, “any object or non-genital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.” To me, this means any thing, action, or body type can be a fetish to someone. Furthermore, people can find us attractive for various reasons as well. At what point will we realize we cannot control how others view us? It is up to you and me to decide what we will tolerate. Bottom line, people can only do what we allow.

The article also highlighted the uproar that occurred on social media regarding men who only want larger women for sex. A proposition for sex can arise for many reasons, but that doesn’t mean you have to comply. Instead of giving energy to hopefully change the behavior of other people, strive to love yourself more. If we focus on ourselves to achieve betterment,the negativity of society won’t be so distracting or disturbing.

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Towanda is a self-acceptance advocate born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. Ms. Bryant promotes self-love and acceptance through her writing, which can be found on her blogs; Diary of a Stylish Buxom Beauty and My Heels in Life. Ms. Bryant expresses the importance of identifying and embracing the beauty found within all of us no matter what society says. Her writing contributions can also be found on HuffingtonPost.com and Medium.

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