About two days ago the word unconventional popped in my head. It happened after I took a stroll through my Instagram feed. I noticed a post that, quite frankly, ridiculed a behavior the poster didn’t agree with. Before I go any further, please know I am an advocate of various forms of self-expression. However, I think there are some lines that shouldn’t be crossed. Such as, the act of belittling another person for their choices. Which raises a couple of questions in my mind; how can scorning someone for their individuality be beneficial; and why do we do it?
During my adolescent years I encountered some moments of ridicule that caused me to view myself as inadequate and unattractive. In retrospect, I wish I had voiced my feelings and thoughts of inadequacy to someone that would have guided me to a healthier mindset. Be that as it may, I’ve reached a point in my life where I am interested in changing how we view being acceptable.
Unconventional is an adjective that means something that is not based on or conforming to what is generally done or accepted – different. When I was much younger I didn’t grasp the beauty of being peculiar. I wanted to fit in and be accepted by my peers, but there were things about me that made it seem impossible. In hindsight, I wish I had been accepting of my differences and used them to highlight who I am rather than desiring to change them. I am coming to terms with the fact that everyone is not going to like me – and that is okay. What I must concern myself with is ensuring my behavior aligns with my core values and beliefs – not whether or not I’m liked by people.
“Everyone is not going to love you, like you, or even accept you. But, that doesn’t mean you cannot like, love, and accept yourself.” – the Stylish Buxom Beauty
I want to be that voice in your head encouraging you to be weird, strange, peculiar, and simply unconventional. Why? Because I’ve learned it is better to be true to self than to conform to the ideals of others.
People will dislike and reject you based on how you look, how you speak, or what you do or don’t do. But what truly matters is whether or not you like and accept yourself – even when it is unconventional.